It felt like everything had gone into slow motion

I was in a fog and was not thinking straight for a while and would find myself crying quite a lot.

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October 2016

Emma

May 12th 2015 is a day I will never forget. I was around 11-12 weeks pregnant and a week away from the first scan. 

I remember rushing around getting my 2 year old son and myself ready for the day, when I started to get cramps and discovered a slight bleed.

Even now I can't describe the shock that I felt but deep down I knew I had lost my baby.

From then on it was a waiting game. My husband came home and my GP could not say for definite if I was miscarrying our baby and was booked in for a scan on the following day. 

The bleeding had stopped but I was still getting cramps but can remember hoping against hope that I was not losing our baby. 

Around 9pm that evening I had the urge to go for a bath and I very sadly miscarried our baby in the bath. 

I can remember being very calm but in all honesty it felt like everything had gone into slow motion. 

The bleeding was incredibly heavy and there was blood everywhere and I was in a lot of pain. 

I ended up being admitted to A&E and I remember a very lovely student nurse holding my hand and told me to cry as much as I liked.

I couldn't, it didn't seem real, like it was not happening to me. 

The following morning I was sitting on the ward trying to get my head round everything. In the cubicle across from me, they were talking about the imminent arrival of a new baby and that's when it hit me, that there would be no new baby and I can remember sobbing my heart out, it had finally hit me that I had lost my baby, that I would never get too hold the baby I had lost in my arms and tell my baby how much I loved them and the pain of that was something I had never experienced before or since. 

When I came home, everything was a blur, the best way I can describe it, is to say that I was in a fog and was not thinking straight for a while and would find myself crying quite a lot.

Eventually, the fog lifted and I started to get back to normality again but it took time and a lot of people did not understand that.

I did have some very insensitive comments said to me such as "what did you expect, you were in the early stages?/ I don't think you were physically or mentally ready for the pregnancy". Comments that did not need to be said and served no purpose but caused great hurt.

I also had wonderful friends that helped me through and let me say exactly how I was feeling and I will always be eternally grateful to them for their support. 

My experience left me with a strong realisation that we need to be more open about miscarriage and talk more openly about our losses. Miscarriage should not be a taboo subject.

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