We'd been trying for about ten months. I have long gaps between periods so we weren't entirely sure how pregnant I was. So when we went for twelve week scan I didn't panic too much that the baby was smaller than expected, they said my dates could be wrong.
I know in hindsight they were letting us down gently.
We went back a week later and there was no change and no growth. They confirmed a delayed or missed miscarriage.
I was given the options and thought I'd go for a natural miscarriage. I ended up having a d and c 2 weeks later after endless bleeds and cramps with no loss they scanned me twice and the pregnancy was still there.
We were heart broken, I still am.
We might try again but I don't want to go through that any time soon so we're waiting a bit. If I'm ever pregnant again it won't be the same and I'll never forget my first. It is more common than I thought and even though it feels like it, we didn't do anything wrong.
I wrote a letter to my baby it helped me. It might help you.
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