I think of the little person who would've been joining our family and I am so sad they never got to be

Before my ectopic I had heard about ectopic pregnancies and knew what it meant but I had never heard someone else's story.

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October 2016

Amy

I'm not really sure how to write my story but I will give you the details as they happened on that day as I know that I've found it so helpful reading other women's ectopic journeys.

It was my fourth pregnancy. I have two girls and have also had a miscarriage.

I was just 6 weeks pregnant.

I just remember this awful stitch like pain in my side. I was sure I just needed the loo so at that point I wasn't too concerned. I wasn't myself though and a couple of friends that I seen that day have commented that they thought that I just 'wasn't right'.

Later that night just before my girls went to bed I started bleeding, I had pain in my left shoulder and I had a burning sensation below my right rib cage down towards my groin area.

I called NHS 24 and was told to come in immediately. I knew at that point I had lost the baby.

From arriving in hospital it was all a blur but ended with me having emergency surgery to remove my right Fallopian tube, which was badly damaged and was causing internal bleeding.

My initial feeling post surgery was relief that the pain was over. I came home quickly and got on with life. I told everyone I was fine.

In reality I think I was traumatised but didn't know how to share the pain with others.

As time has gone on, it is now approaching a year since that day, I think about it all the time and think about what could've been.

I think of the little person who would've been joining our family and I am so sad they never got to be.

Before my ectopic I had heard about ectopic pregnancies and knew what it meant but I had never heard someone else's story. It's a tough thing to go through and to read other women's experiences and feel a little less alone makes all the difference. 

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