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I told myself ‘Surely it won’t happen again, we can’t be that unlucky’.

Story of Miscourage

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Story of #miscourage by Anonymous, 

We first found out we were pregnant after a holiday to New York at Christmas. It was a shock as we hadn’t been trying for long but we were thrilled. 

We had known for around 8 days when I went to support my partner playing football as I usually do, as I stood on the sidelines I knew something was wrong.

I had this niggling backache that wouldn’t shift. My Mum tried to assure me that everything would be OK but I just knew that wasn’t the case. This day also happened to be my partners birthday so I tried my best to stay positive and we went out for tea. When we got back from tea I noticed some blood. 

We went to the early pregnancy unit and they did some checks, I was told the bleeding was light and not to worry but to go back if it got worse. I woke up the next morning and I knew as soon as I went to the toilet that it was all over. We went back to EPU and they confirmed we’d had a complete miscarriage.

We were devastated. 

Two months later we discovered we were pregnant again. We were so excited and I told myself ‘Surely it won’t happen again, we can’t be that unlucky’.

We went to EPU at 6 weeks as I had some abdominal pain, they assured me that it was nothing to worry about and everything looked ok. They scanned us and there it was, it’s heart beating away. We then went back for a reassurance scan at 8 weeks and everything was still going great. 

Fast forward a week and I had some stomach pain, pain that had me worried. There was no bleeding so I tried my best to be positive, but I couldn’t rest, my instincts were telling me something wasn’t right. 

I booked a private scan at what should have been 9 weeks and 4 days, we were so excited to see the baby, but when it came up on the screen my heart sank, it wasn’t moving. Before I knew it the sonographer uttered the words ‘I’m sorry there’s no heartbeat’. In that moment my world stopped. 

It had happened again, but this time we had suffered a missed miscarriage. I felt very anxious during the second pregnancy, but I assured myself that aslong as my symptoms were present then everything had to be ok, boy was I wrong. Our baby had died 4 days previous to the scan and my body didn’t even know. 

We will try again but we’ve lost the excitement and carefree feelings you should have during those first weeks of pregnancy, you see that’s what miscarriage does to you.

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    • By David (not verified) on 13 Aug 2018 - 14:02

      My wife and I are booked to see the EPU tomorrow morning and we are fairly sure that we have a missed miscarriage too. 10 weeks pregnant.
      This is our second pregnancy and will be back to back identical miscarriages. I just wanted to share with you that you are not going through this alone and that knowing this gives us all hope. All the very best for the future. Please keep trying, never give up... x

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