We were lucky with our first born. She was prem due to pre-eclampsia but was strong and is now a lovely 6 year old.
My second pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage at around 6 weeks, 2 days after our positive pregnancy test. The miscarriage was painful but happened quickly and we tried our best to get over it and try again.
I fell pregnant again only 2 months later. I felt good, suffered the usual early pregnancy symptoms and gained a little weight.
Then in November 2011 3 days before my 12 week scan I started to bleed. The pain was unbearable and after 2 days of putting my feet up and resting we went to A&E. I was given an internal and the doctor said my cervix was still closed, I was probably just having some blood loss and everything should be fine in a few days - but to be on the safe side booked me an appointment for a scan the following morning. We went home feeling positive. The next day the scan showed the baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks.
We were heartbroken.
I had to go away and make the painful decision of what to do next, take the tablet, wait for nature to take its course or have the D&C. I opted for the operation - I needed to feel in control of this and know when and how it would happen. I was booked in for 2 days later, signed the consent form and gave them permission to look into what had happened to cause another miscarriage.
I went home feeling numb, by this time I was suffering contractions every 5/10 mins as my body started to do its job, I didn't sleep and at some point in the night went to the loo and lost what I thought was the baby. I called hospital they confirmed it sounded like it had happened naturally. They cancelled the D&C but asked for me to come along for another scan to see that everything had come away.
I returned to the hospital had the scan, everything was still there - the loss I had must have been a blood clot!!! The D&C is rearranged for another 2 days time - by this time 5 days had gone by. I go home feeling even more numb, me and my husband don't know what to say to each other - I hated the feeling of having my baby inside of me and knowing that it had died. I was also still having very painful contractions that no one could stop and no medicine could take it away.
The D&C was not a nice procedure and that day was one of the worst of my life - I was very emotional. Getting over that was a terrible personal struggle and sometimes I felt so alone as I blamed myself for not being able to carry a baby properly, one premature baby and now 2 miscarriages. We decided to stop 'trying' but to see what happened.
There was light at the end of the tunnel.
5 months later I fell pregnant again. This time I had a early scan at 6 weeks, then 12 weeks, 20 weeks and 6 weekly after that - the NHS were fab and my consultant an angel. On 11th Novemeber 2012 my rainbow baby was born at 37 weeks weighing 5lb14 we named her Jemima-Rose. She is a beauty along with her older sister.
I can't tell you how blessed I feel now. My husband and I decided last year that we didn't want anymore children as we couldn't put ourselves through that heartache again and I was sterilised. Even though my baby making years are behind me I still get broody and I also often (very often) think of those 2 babies that I lost and what they would have been like.
Don't give up hope.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
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