4 years of trying and 13 eggs

We are 20 weeks pregnant with 1 beautiful baby. Its been a long journey but one I wouldn't change for the world. Fingers crossed that all goes to plan now.

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#misCOURAGE story, 16/05/2017, by Nicola

In 2011 we gave birth to a lovely baby boy who was conceived very easily and naturally. 

After about a year we decided to try for a sibling but this was not going to be as easy as we imagined. We tried for 2 long years without so much as a positive pregnancy test.

Following lots of tests we decided to go down the IVF route. This was not an easy decision and was one that had to be funded ourselves.

In Dec 2014 we had our first lot of eggs put back. 3 in total and to our amazement and joy we got a positive test, however this was not meant to be and a couple of days later the bleeding started.

In April we decided to go for our second lot which again gave us a positive test however this time we proceeded with caution. We were very excited to get to our first scan at 7.5 weeks.

However, once again things were not meant to be and we were told that they could see a sac but no heartbeat. We were told to go back a week later but again nothing was seen. It took us until 12 weeks to finally have the baby removed.

Following on from this we took the decision to move to IVF abroad because of the costs. We ended up having 4 more goes 2 of which were negative and 1 which was again lost early.

However finally after 4 years of trying and 13 eggs we are 20 weeks pregnant with 1 beautiful baby.

Its been a long journey but one I wouldn't change for the world. Fingers crossed that all goes to plan now.

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