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    • By Sophie (not verified) on 28 Feb 2018 - 22:48

      Hello,
      I had a miscarriage in Dec 16’, Ectopic in March ‘17 which resulted in emergency surgery and loss of tube, and a recent miscarriage a few weeks ago Feb 18’. Can I get referred to a specialist/recurrent miscarriage clinic? I was told that an Ectopic isn’t ‘counted’ and therefore not 3 consecutive losses. Thank you, sophie

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 1 Mar 2018 - 15:49

      Hi Sophie,
      I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriages. It often, unfortunately depends on the clinic, as to their referral criteria. Was this the GP that told this to you? I would check that this information has come from the clinic itself, so the easiest thing to do would be to call them. If you do not have any luck with this, then please do email us [email protected] and let us know where abouts in the country you live and we can contact the nearest research centre to you to see if they will accept a referral.
      Best wishes, Tommy's midwives x

    • By Angela (not verified) on 5 Feb 2018 - 02:27

      am 31 years old,am 9weeks 2day pregnancy at first it was white creamy discharge,it change in to tick brown after that i have light bleeding for 3day .And it's also change into light brown and when I read something about ectopic pregnancy am worried please it could be a miscarriage?And this is my first pregnancy thank you

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 7 Feb 2018 - 10:32

      Hi Angela
      The white discharge sounds like it could be thrush. But the bleeding that followed, does need to be reviewed if you have not already done so. Bleeding at any gestation needs to be reviewed, although it does sound as if this has stopped now, it might be sensible to visit your GP and get referred to your local early pregnancy assessment unit for a check up there as you are still in your first trimester. If you wish to call and have a chat about this, please feel free to call us on 0800 0147800
      All the best
      Sophie, Tommy's Midwife

    • By Eva (not verified) on 28 Dec 2017 - 14:38

      Hello just joined this group cus I find it very helpful.I just discovered I was pregnant few days after period loss.I was having stomach ache and vaginal itches thought it wil be over after using salt and luke warm water to wash my vagina but the itches stop for a while and has continued again.what can I do to stop the abdominal pain am scared it's the vaginal itches that is causing the pain.I dnt find this situation normal.am even scared to take any medications for fear of losing my early pregnancy.what can I really do pls help me

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 3 Jan 2018 - 12:58

      Hi Eva
      It sounds as if you have thrush, which causes the vagina to become itchy and often a "cottage cheese" like discharge. This needs to be treated - which you can buy over the counter easily at your local pharmacy. Stomach pains, at any gestation of pregnancy needs to be reviewed by a midwife and obstetric doctor. So if you have not already done so, please do get yourself checked.
      Please take care
      Sophie, Tommy's Midwife

    • By Anonymous (not verified) on 29 Jul 2017 - 08:44

      I m 22 week pregnant n yesterday I noticed some spots of bleeding in the morning I didn't take it much seriously .At night went to doctor n she gave some medicine n I came home.Again next night I noticed gush of watery discharge I rushed to the hospital n was kept on antibiotic.so please could u tell me what could be the reason for water break was infection the cause of water break as I had no fever nor vomiting problem

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 31 Jul 2017 - 11:11

      We don't always know why the membranes rupture early in pregnancy. It is linked to infection in about a third of cases and studies have also shown that there is a link with smoking, but in many situations we don't know the cause. I hope that the hospital has explained what to do to monitor your temperature and what to look for and also explained that you should avoid having sexual intercourse. You can find information on our link. https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/pregnancy-complications/waters-breaking-early-pprom
      Best wishes to you from Tommy's midwives x

    • By Anonymous (not verified) on 13 Jul 2017 - 12:18

      i m having fever n vomiting problem wt to do

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 13 Jul 2017 - 14:12

      Hi, Thank you for your comment.

      We are sorry to hear that you are feeling unwell. Being unwell in pregnancy can be really tough as you are tired and run down as your body is working hard to grow your baby. If you have a fever then you can take paracetamol two, 500mg tablets 4-6 hourly but don't exceed the maximum dose of 8 tablets in 24 hours. It is important that you drink plenty of fluids if you can tolerate it, as vomiting can make you dehydrated. If your temperature goes over 38 degrees, are still vomiting after 48 hours or if you have any concerns with baby's movements or abdominal pain or bleeding, then you need to be seen by a doctor or midwife. Just rest when you can and please don't hesitate to seek medical advice if you feel like things aren't improving. Hope this helps and you feel better soon, Tommy's Midwives x

    • By Anonymous (not verified) on 13 Jul 2017 - 12:15

      Mam i m 29 week preg

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 13 Jul 2017 - 13:59

      Hi, Thank you for your comment and congratulations of your pregnancy. If you need any pregnancy advice email us on [email protected] or call us on 0800 0147 800 Monday to Friday 9am-5pm. Or you can visit our website at https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information Take care, Tommy's Midwives x

    • By Fatheeyah (not verified) on 20 Mar 2017 - 13:28

      Please help me count my week am pregnant and my last period was 19th February

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 20 Mar 2017 - 13:37

      Hi Fatheeyah. Please use the link below using our pregnancy calculator and your average length of cycle to work out an estimation of how many weeks pregnant you are and your estimated due date. Congratulations!

      https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/im-pregnant/calculate-your-due-date

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 12 Oct 2016 - 12:37

      Thank you for your post. It is lovely news to hear that 'healthy baby 3' has arrived but the soul searching questions and what ifs still remain as you say.

    • By Anonymous (not verified) on 30 Jan 2017 - 22:36

      I have an inplanon in 2/9/2014 and m on haart now it's almost 2years 4mnths bt found out I'm pregnant n not ready yet couse my younger son is3years 8mnths now, I have been noticed that I don't go to my periods thought its the side iffect bt scared then on December last year stated hvng morning sickness n the breast tips so sore frequent urine then end DEC I report this incident bt thy said maybe side effect no test have been taken, again today repot this at the clinic no testing till I go to pharmacy for two preg test become positive n go back to the clinic to tell them then started do the test n got shocked,I won't be able to keep the bby so they have call the hospital for an abortion date its on Thursday the 2nd,I'm so scared couse I thought that m safe n m nt sure how far am I nw start having gugling tummy not know if it's a bby or if it's almost more then 12weeks what am I goin to do ....I really need help couse I don't want to have a babe,pls help me

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 31 Jan 2017 - 09:27

      Hello - so sorry to hear you are so worried, I would need a few more details from you in order to help with your question, please email [email protected] with your query so we can help answer your questions.

    • By Rachel (not verified) on 12 Oct 2016 - 05:21

      I hate that I was made to feel it was early on its fine, no biggie,not an issue,get over it!!!!! My son was my strength even though he'll probably never know how much he helped! I wouldn't wish miscarriage on my worst enemy however early or late, I hope one day the investigations in to it progress as after mine I learned that my grandmother and mother had between them had 5 and one still born! Healthy baby 3 is now with us and I am now finished with pregnancies but there will always be questions, doubt, wonders and what ifs.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 11 Oct 2016 - 11:31

      I am so sorry for your devastating loss... You must not feel bad and blame yourself. Can you arrange to have a chat with your Consultant to discuss what happened as this may answer some questions you may have and clarify what happened. Please call Tommy's Pregnancy Line on 0800 0147 800 where there is Midwife available to chat between 9am to 5pm every week day and we can hopefully answer some of your queries too..

    • By Anonymous (not verified) on 7 Oct 2016 - 17:37

      With cs l lost my baby weight 5.5. I felt bad and confuse. But God know better. He wil console me.

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