Miscarriage - information and support

Going through a miscarriage can be a very sad, scary or lonely experience. We hope our information answers any questions you have during this difficult time.

What is a miscarriage?

A miscarriage is the loss of a pregnancy during the first 24 weeks. Sadly, miscarriages are a common complication, with most miscarriages happening in the first 3 months of pregnancy (first trimester) .

Losing a baby is a deeply personal experience that affects people differently. No matter when in your pregnancy you miscarry, you may need support to help you come to terms with what’s happened.

Tommy’s is here to help you. You can talk to a Tommy’s midwife for free, Monday-Friday, 9am-5pm. You can call them on 0800 0147 800 or email [email protected]. All our midwives are trained in bereavement support and will be able to talk to you about what you’re going through.

Find out more about what support is available.

Miscarriages are often referred to as early or late, although there are other types of miscarriage too.

What is early miscarriage?

Early miscarriage is one that happens in the first 3 months (first trimester) of pregnancy. Most miscarriages are early miscarriages.

Unfortunately, early miscarriages are very common and may happen before a woman realises she is even pregnant. In most cases, it is not possible to give a reason why an early miscarriage happens.

Find out more about early miscarriage.

What is late miscarriage?

A late miscarriage is one that happens after the first 3 months (second trimester of pregnancy, but before 24 weeks (during your second trimester). If a baby dies at or after 24 weeks of pregnancy, this is called a stillbirth.

It can be very hard to understand why a very late loss is called a miscarriage rather than a stillbirth. This is because, from a legal point of view, a baby is thought to have a good chance of surviving if they are born alive at 24 weeks. 

This distinction can be upsetting for some women who have a late miscarriage because they may also give birth to their baby and, understandably, feel that it should be called a stillbirth.

Late miscarriages are not as common as early miscarriages and happen in 1-2% of pregnancies.

How common is miscarriage?

Miscarriage is more common than people realise. Up to 1 in 5 women will experience a miscarriage in their lifetime. Many miscarriages are unreported and some go unnoticed as it happens so soon.

Find out more about how common miscarriage is.

What are the symptoms of miscarriage?


The most common sign of miscarriage is vaginal bleeding. It’s common to have light bleeding or spotting without pain before 12 weeks, so this doesn’t mean you are having a miscarriage. But if you have any bleeding in pregnancy, with or without pain, you should contact your midwife or hospital straight away.

Other symptoms of a miscarriage include:

Can I prevent miscarriage?

We don’t always know why miscarriages happen, which makes it very difficult to prevent them.

It is important to know that miscarriages very rarely happen because of something you did or didn’t do. And it’s important to remember that there is nothing you can do that will guarantee that you won’t have a miscarriage. However, we do know that there are some things that increase your risk of miscarriage that you can change. 

Find out more about preventing a miscarriage.

Was it my fault?

When your healthcare professional can’t give a reason why you miscarried, it can be very difficult to come to terms with. Without having a reason why, some women and couples end up unnecessarily blaming themselves for what happened. We have answered some common questions that we hope will stop people blaming themselves. 

Find out more about why did I miscarry and was it my fault?

Why does miscarriage happen?

Unfortunately, we still don’t know why every miscarriage happens. Sometimes, your doctor may be able to offer you some tests and find out the cause of your miscarriage. If this happens, you may be able to have treatment to help prevent it from happening again.

It’s important to know that sometimes doctors will not be able to find a reason why you have miscarried. Try not to worry too much if this is the case. Most couples are likely to have a successful pregnancy in the future.

Our research

Tommy’s is funding the cost of the UK’s first national Miscarriage Research Centre and aims to halve the number of miscarriages by 2030 by funding medical research.

1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss or preterm birth – and most parents never find out the real reason why. Our research is entirely dedicated to finding out why miscarriages happen and how to prevent it in the future.

Find out more about our Tell me why campaign.

Read more about miscarriage


Royal College of Obstetricians & Gynaecologists (2016) Early miscarriage https://www.rcog.org.uk/globalassets/documents/patients/patient-information-leaflets/pregnancy/pi-early-miscarriage.pdf

Royal College of Obstetricians & Gynaecologists (2012) Recurrent and late miscarriage: tests and treatment of couples https://www.rcog.org.uk/globalassets/documents/patients/patient-information-leaflets/pregnancy/pi-recurrent-and-late-miscarriage---tests-and-treatment-of-couples.pdf

NICE Guidelines (2019) Ectopic pregnancy and miscarriage: diagnosis and initial management. National Institute for Health and Care Excellence https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/ng126

NHS Choices. Miscarriage symptoms https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/miscarriage/symptoms/ (Page last reviewed: 01/06/2018. Next review due: 01/06/2021)

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    • By Sharon brimley (not verified) on 30 Mar 2020 - 00:38

      Hi iv had misscarriage in early December with only sac no think else at 14 weeks then I got pregnant again and was told when have early scan I was only 6 weeks not 9 I had very bad bleeding and clots went to hospital and was told my cervix where still closed so on Sunday gone I went for another scan and there told me I had list the new pregnant which had sac and form baby I can't under stand what going on and feel like I am being fob off cause I still feel pregrant tge last misscarriage in December my stomach went straight down but this time I am still hard I just can't believe what there said to me like said this doesn't make sense and can't get answer from any one I feel like iv been brush aside

    • By Sarah Monk (not verified) on 15 Jan 2020 - 22:51

      The recent media coverage has really caught my attention. Having experienced three different types of miscarriages, the most traumatic part I found and still feel angry with was how I was treated. Directed to waiting rooms after being told devastating news to be sat along side happy, nearly full term ladies was hard for all concerned. Being taken into a medical store cupboard to have a further chat with the lead gynaecologist to discuss options for removal of ‘product’, again just added to the distress. Not able to naturally pass ‘products’, each of my miscarriages had to be removed. I was advised to try a course of pills, didn’t work and then the ultimate 3rd world type option of manual evacuation. If it had been explained what this procedure would have involved I would never have taken this option. It is and to this day is the most traumatic experience I have ever had to go through. How is this even allowed in this day and age. By the 3rd miscarriage I was wise to NHS saving money and opted for the expensive op option-I needed to protect my sanity! I am still frustrated about how women are managed through what for me has been the most traumatic experience of my life....serving in Afghanistan compared pales into insignificance. I really hope

    • By Anonymous (not verified) on 21 Jan 2020 - 16:13

      I was 3 months pregnant. Nobody has listened to the fact I have exact dates and kept telling me about variables in timing. I had light bleeding on Weds so went to A&E and was told on Thurs at ultrasound it was an anembyonic pregnancy with no baby that was 32mm and some ‘congestion’.
      I had a full miscarriage on Saturday like childbirth (I know, I have a child already) and aside from the heavy bleeding and tissues there WAS a recognisable fetus, placenta and a deformed sac full of cysts the size of a tennis ball. I called the hospital and told them my pain and bloodloss etc...and was told it was ok to stay at home and they booked me another ultrasound for Monday morning.
      The ultrasound scanner was very rude on Monday and tried to tell me there wasnt any pregnancy and I must of lost it very early and refused to listen when I tried to explain I had miscarried. Afterwards I was sent to the wrong place at EPU and after waiting was redirected to gynae. We were put in a room and had to wait for almost two hours in a room with no information except that to wait for doctor, but no reason why.
      When I saw the doctor, he started to reassure me and tell me things pregnancy related and about ectopics....I had to stop him and tell him I had miscarried. He was agahst, and knew nothing of it. When I explained the pain and level of blood loss he said I should of been admitted and other tests taken. It turns out no notes had been made on the system regarding my miscarriage. He asked us to stay for fast tracked blood tests there. After an hour I started having clots and pain again which have been intermittent since Saturday. I asked for pain relief and was told I couldnt have anything stronger than paracetemol. A while later while I was in considerable pain which was visible, a pregnant woman and her little girl were sent to wait in the same stuffy small room as me. I found this highly inappropriate for me and for them....my husband asked what was going on and nobody could tell us and I was told we could go home.
      In all we were at hospital on Monday for almost 6 hours and apart from it being horrific I know nothing more from professionals now than last Wednesday. I was then called later by the doctor on my home phone, and he couldnt understand why we had left the hospital. He spoke about who I had seen and been told....and again was shocked when I said Id had no info or any support. I have to return to hospital again on Wednesday for more blood tests.
      It has been almost a week since I first made contact with A&E. I have gone through everything alone. I have seen nobody regarding my miscarriage and was given no info or leaflets or support about what to expect. Ive had no medication prescribed and no advice on how to rest, a sick note or return to work. Nothing.
      I feel like I have been treated like an idiot and worse than a domestic pet that requires veterinary treatment. And to add insult to injury, Ive been made to sit in rooms with women who are pregnant and that are full of magazines in them with families showing off their newborn babies and advertising goods etc... They even sent a woman and her partner to sit next to me with a Bounty bag!
      Im in complete and utter shock at the whole scenario from start to finish.

    • By Miss Davost-Muller (not verified) on 15 Nov 2019 - 09:06

      After suffering for 1 month of severe vomiting (hyperemesis gravidarum), I had to go to the early pregnancy unit at the Hospital, where they discovered that the baby was not in the good place, so they had to remove it. At this stage, I was 10 weeks pregnant and accepting the surgery was very difficult for me as I already had a miscarriage a year earlier. Also, I didn't believe the doctors as I didn't have any Ectopic pregnancy symptoms (bleeding, pain). I knew that if the baby was in the Fallopian tube, the tube would have already broke at 10 weeks (it's often break at 6-7 weeks).
      I've sent the scans to other Gynaecologists, whilst still being at the hospital and all the Gynaecologists confirmed that the baby wasn't in the good place and insisted that I had a surgery ASAP as it was too dangerous for my life.

      The next day, I accepted the surgery: a salpingectomy where they removed the right Fallopian tube and discovered that I had 2 uterus, also called a unicornuate uterus (although some doctors in France said that it was a bicornuate uterus). This part of the uterus was too small for the baby to grow and would have exploded very soon. They removed both the baby and this part of the uterus, which saved my life.

      It's been 1 month since the surgery and I still not feel better emotionally. I am worried about the future as I don't know how difficult it would be for me to have children (will the remaining uterus be big enough, will I need a surgery of the uterus to make it bigger?).
      I know that what I have is rare... but not unique.
      I would love to talk with women that had a similar experience and understand what their journey was to have children with a unicornuate uterus or bicornuate uterus.
      Thanks in advance for your support!

    • By Danielle (not verified) on 13 Nov 2019 - 16:39

      I miscarried almost 3 months ago at 11 weeks pregnant. Scans show the gestational sac was 7 weeks 6 days. I still have not passed the remaining tissue, the latest scan still shows the sac as being 7 weeks 6 days and blood tests show positive. I’ve been told the sac has become vascular and they need to do an MRI before they can surgically remove anything. It’s been over 2 weeks since then and I’m still waiting for the MRI with no updates on when that will be. I’m going through the public hospital. My question is, how long should I wait before I get another opinion? I’m starting to get cramping at times and I’m quite concerned about how long it’s been inside me. I can’t find any info online about similar situations 3 months after miscarriage.

    • By Nila Matthews (not verified) on 18 Oct 2019 - 13:33

      Having been through both a late and early miscarriage and finding there was no one to 'talk to', I felt really isolated and suffered from bouts of low mood, self-esteem and depression. I eventually met someone who had experienced something similar and we began to tell our stories. Through this process, I began to heal. I am now trained up to support people properly so have set up an Oxfordshire based face-to-face support group called PebblesStory. All are welcome if you want real people to talk to who understand and a cup of tea! https://www.facebook.com/groups/PebblesStory/

    • By Claire (not verified) on 30 Aug 2019 - 14:20

      I’m currently 6 weeks pregnant. I had a miscarriage back in april, during that pregnancy I felt deep down something wasn’t right as I had no pregnancy symptoms at all. I miscarried at 10 weeks and was told the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. This time I still haven’t had any sickness etc yet, and I’m terrified the same this is going to happen again. I have no idea how to stop worrying, I just want the next 6 weeks to pass quickly so I can get to a scan and find out.

    • By Natasha (not verified) on 29 Jul 2019 - 23:23

      I’ve had three miscarriages in the last 6 months and all happened at 4 weeks and 2 days. Is there a chance that this is just a coincidence? My GP has referred me to a reoccurring miscarriage clinic but I’ve already been waiting a month for the first appointment letter. I’d like some advice as to whether it’s just a coincidence I’ve miscarried at the same time with all three or not please?

    • By Swathi (not verified) on 17 Jun 2019 - 21:43

      Hi this is swathi,
      I had a miscarriage last week.. till the last early Tiffany scan, everything was ok.. suddenly my water broke early morning and we visited doctor that morning.. we got it scanned and doctor said that sac got ruptured and the whole amniotic fluid drained.. and she has given some antibiotics for a week so that baby should not get infected.. if the baby survives for a week and water level improves them I ll take it further she said..and after coming home.. I took that tablet.. right then I got very high fever and visited hospital again.. they have given medicines to get the temperature down but the next morning I started bleeding and got aborted.. but the placenta took two hours time.. doctor performed d and c and took it out..and she said there is some sepsis infection and they cleared it I was in I u for 5 days..but they did not mention from where this infection has come and how.. did it come when my baby was in the stomach or did the foetus generated it or it was there form long time.. and will this miscarriage effect my next pregnancy? And how many days should we wait.. please suggest..

    • By Asma kouser (not verified) on 12 Jun 2019 - 21:40

      Hey I just had 1 misscaridge still bleeding I wanted to ask dc gave me Letrozole bcz my periods was irregular gave me these medication to help me get pragnant I did get prag i wanted to ask that I'm still bleeding so can I start these tb now or not? Pls answer me as quick as u can thank u

    • By Yash (not verified) on 11 Jun 2019 - 17:00

      I am 29 years 7 months , this is my first pregnancy but i am not prepared for it . I am depressed from the day i got confirmation .
      I always think it would be good if i get miscarriage . Currently i am into my 8 weeks of pregnancy

    • By Louise (not verified) on 9 Jun 2019 - 23:03

      Hi. Struggling to cope after second miscarriage in 8 months. Gp offered no help or guidance told me I’m young and it’s common. I’m 30 and been struggling to conceive for over two and a half years. Really down about it all as all my friends are having successful pregnancies and I’m not.

    • By Shirin (not verified) on 24 Jun 2019 - 05:33

      I’m also 30 and I’ve just lost my first baby on 8 weeks... we’ve been trying for the last 2,5 years. It’s been emotional for both of us with my husband.
      Lately I’ve been praying, I’ve also realized I need to stay positive as I can. Please don’t give up. God sends us all different tests, we need to keep praying and having faith.
      God bless :)


    • By saima (not verified) on 3 Sep 2019 - 16:11

      plz I m know a days going through this booked for surgery in 5 days scared need to now whatever it's ok to wait naturaly (already 5 weeks passed) or something else like surgery plz guide me very hard to decide.

    • By Raquel (not verified) on 4 Jun 2019 - 00:20

      I had a misiscarriage last Sunday and I'm still feeling weird cramps and I feel like I could have an infection. Should I go to E&A? Or to my GP. Thank you

    • By Ri (not verified) on 14 Jul 2019 - 15:46

      Hi so sorry to hear about your loss.

      Please go to your gp or early pregnancy unit as having an infection can be very dangerous

      All the best

    • By LOUISE (not verified) on 29 Jul 2019 - 12:02

      Sometimes it's normal to get stomach cramps as long as you don't pass big clots you will be fine trust me but if you feel unwell in yourself I suggest get some medical advice kind regards Louise

    • By Renata (not verified) on 18 May 2019 - 13:08

      Hello, I just had miscarriage of 8 weeks pregnancy. it was big shock for me and my head is really messed up about it. i had medical miscarriage management two days ago, feeling very weak mentally and physically because baby was very waited and wanted. could I ask my gp/doctor for a off work sick note? because I am not ready to come back to work after this??
      thank you for your answer.

    • By Anne Thorpe (not verified) on 13 May 2019 - 03:38

      My husband and I just had sex for the first time since my miscarriage and an hour later I have belly ache which is making me feel sick. It is not painful as such, more of an ache and it’s uncomfortable enough to stop me sleeping. Is that something to worry about?
      Background that might be relevant: I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks which started on 3rd April. I had my first period 27 April-3rd May and ovulated today. On 8th May I was discharged from the hospital’s early pregnancy unit as my hCG hormone level was finally back to negative. I learned that I have two fibroids, one posterior and one in the right lateral wall (I have other questions about them for another time!)

    • By Elaine (not verified) on 13 Mar 2019 - 12:55

      Hi I had a miscarriage last April i was 8 weeks was trying for over 17 years and still struggling please help

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 15 Mar 2019 - 16:39

      Hi Elaine,
      I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, we can support you if you would like to email us [email protected] we can see what support we can arrange for you.
      Best wishes
      Tommy's midwife

    • By Jo (not verified) on 28 Feb 2019 - 23:03

      I had a miscarriage 4 days ago and was 6 weeks pregnant...I had a scan which confirmed there is no debris etc...I stopped bleeding today, how long do I have to wait until I can have sex again?

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 1 Mar 2019 - 11:57

      Hi Jo,
      I am sorry to hear about your recent miscarriage. If your bleeding has completely stopped, then you can have sex whenever you feel ready.
      Best wishes
      Tommy's midwife

    • By Helen (not verified) on 30 Jan 2019 - 09:49

      My husband and I conceived through IVF, using two embryos in March. Both implanted, in separate sacs but we suffered a missed miscarriage with both foetuses at around 7 weeks.

      We conceived again in November, with IVF again, and last week we went for our 12 week scan and found out that we have also lost this baby at 8-9 weeks.

      Does this "count" as three miscarriages or will the NHS class the loss of our twins as one loss and the loss of this baby as the second loss?

      We are struggling with the thought that we will have to go through this again in order to get help, as we have lost three babies and only have two frozen embryos left to work with.

      I also have an exceptionally rare autoimmune disorder and am concerned that this could have had some involvement.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 31 Jan 2019 - 11:12

      Dear Helen - thank you for your message. I am so sorry to learn of the loss of your babies.
      Your question requires a bit more information before I can advise, please email me at [email protected] and I can provide further information and advice.

    • By Maxine (not verified) on 24 Jan 2019 - 12:36

      I need advice as the hospital aren't giving me any. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks last week but it was incomplete. I had the scan on Monday. I've been given 6 tablets in all which I inserted in myself at home over 2 days. Nothing has happened and the hospital won't see me till next Tuesday. I wemt to the loo today and what appears to be the half dissolved tablets have come out. Any advice on what i should do?

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 24 Jan 2019 - 12:54

      HI - Thank you for your message.
      I'm so sorry to hear you are having difficulty getting advice and support following your miscarriage. It sounds form the brief details you have shared that you are having medical management for the miscarriage using vaginal pessary's.
      Medical management of miscarriage is effective for about 85 percent of women. For a small number, this method doesn’t succeed, and in this case, surgery may be needed.
      As you are finding it difficult in getting support and advice from your hospital, please contact your GP for advice and support.

    • By Fee (not verified) on 19 Jan 2019 - 15:37

      Good afternoon,
      I had a surgery for our MMC 10 days ago and had an internal scan yesterday which confirmed a complete miscarriage (the lining is less than 15mm, 14mm in my case) but the consultant also said that the lining isn't smooth yet and that there are still some blood clots left. They left me with two options : waiting for the remaining tissue to pass naturally or taking a prescription to speed things up. I'm so confused as to what to do. With the surgery it seems like I've put my body through enough already and the prescription sounds a little extreme to me considering they said in medical terms it is a complete miscarriage but on the other hand they wouldn't have suggested it if they didn't think it was necessary? Do you have any advise? Thank you so much in advance!

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 25 Jan 2019 - 10:42

      Dear Fee,
      I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage and what you continue to go through. It is your choice as to what you would like to do, as long as you are feeling well and not showing any symptoms of an infection or bleeding heavily then it would be find to wait if this is what you would like to do. If you would like to chat further then please do email us, [email protected]
      Best wishes
      Tommy's midwife

    • By Julia (not verified) on 11 Jan 2019 - 12:07

      I have just returned from hospital after a missed miscarriage :(. We're were so looking forward to our baby and want to try again soon. We chose the surgical management and I was wondering if the surgery has a similar effect to what you describe in your research as scratching of the womb?
      Thank you, Julia

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 11 Jan 2019 - 12:40

      Dear Julia,
      I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby and what you are going through at the moment.
      Surgical management would not be the same or similar to scratching the womb as discussed as part of the research.
      If we can support you or discuss with you further then please do email us, [email protected]
      Best wishes,
      Tommy's midwife

    • By Caroline (not verified) on 5 Jan 2019 - 16:02

      Hi Tommy’s,
      I’m currently going through my 5th miscarriage, I have been blessed enough to have 1 successful pregnancy. I had one miscarriage before this and now on my fourth in 3 years. I have been under a consultant at the hospital but was discharged as everything seemed normal. I asked about them testing my partner but they refused as we have had a successful pregnancy. I don’t know where to go from here? I don’t know if I can handle anymore heartache but I know I will never be happy if I don’t try again. Surely something must be wrong for it to keep happening?

      Thanks Caroline

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 9 Jan 2019 - 16:14

      Hi Caroline
      Please feel free to contact us via email ([email protected]) to request more information and advice (as this is not a private page). If you live in the UK, you might be able to be referred to one of our recurrent miscarriage clinics to be reviewed there. We look forward to hearing from you. All the best, Tommy's Midwife

    • By Lisa (not verified) on 9 Dec 2018 - 13:06

      This is my second miscarriage in just over a year. I know I have to wait until my third - which seems like agony and more heartache to go through - before I can even get tested.

      I had a friend who had two miscarriages and a missed miscarriage. She went on aspirin tablets and they really helped, allowing her to carry her son and daughter both to full term. Do they help? Because I really can't go through a third or fourth try of this.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 13 Dec 2018 - 13:08

      Hi Lisa, Thank you for your comment.

      We are so very sorry to hear about your losses, this must be a very difficult time for you and your partner. Some women are prescribed aspirin but this is under the direction of a doctor and may be for a medical reason, it may not be appropriate for everyone. It would be advisable that you see your GP and have a discussion about a future pregnancy and what options are available to you, the GP should be able to give you more accurate medical advice. Hope this helps, Take Care, Tommy's Midwives x

    • By Broken (not verified) on 5 Nov 2018 - 22:14

      Hi all
      I'm in a very bad way. 12 weeks & just found out my baby has no heartbeat, died at 8 weeks. Thankfully I have 3 healthy children but this is my 3rd mc in a row 4th in total. I'm devastated worse than ever before as I'm 40 & hubby says that's it. I'm heartbroken. I really want another baby!!

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 8 Nov 2018 - 15:22

      Hi, Thank you for your comment.
      We are so sorry to hear about your losses, this must be a very difficult time for you and your family. Try and talk to your husband about how you are feeling, he is probably feeling the loss as well but deals with it in a different way. As you have had 3 recurring miscarriages then you are eligible for a referral to one of the Tommy's miscarriage clinics if you feel like you want to pursue another pregnancy. Please look at the following link for more information https://www.tommys.org/our-organisation/our-research/research-miscarriage. You can always contact the Tommy's Midwives directly on 0800 0147 800 or email [email protected] Hope this helps, take care, Tommy's Midwives x

    • By Georgia (not verified) on 31 Jul 2018 - 01:09

      Hi I was 12w baby measured 9w no heartbeat my 2nd mc not bleeding so app arranged for following week. Bleeding started a few days later one day of strong pains passing clots next day not too bad up and about. Tonight I noticed a horrid smell worse than stall blood I go to the toilet abit of clot comes out decided to look with a mirror and I could see a clot stuck I think it’s the baby I tried a warm bath, Squatting over the mirror trying to push abit nothing. Gave up went to bed I’m not in pain just achy. What do I do? Will it just pass or will I need medical help?

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 31 Jul 2018 - 15:44

      Hi Georgia
      You need to go to the hospital if you have not already to be assessed. The smell is what worries me the most as you will be at an increased risk of infection. Please go in now if you have not already been seen!
      Please take care
      Sophie, Tommy's Midwife

    • By Rosie (not verified) on 1 Jul 2018 - 00:26

      I miscarried at 10-11 weeks in 2015, and I’m now training to be a midwife myself, however I think I may have PTSD from the way it was ‘managed’. I went to A&E and was told to “go home, stick a film on and just get on with it”, “there’s nothing we can do, you don’t need to be here” etc., which I tried to do. I then haemorrhaged at home the next day (to the point of losing consciousness, vomiting bile and being unable to maintain my own temp.) and was diagnosed with an incomplete miscarriage several days later. I wasn’t offered medical or surgical management or any follow up (not even a full blood count to check my hb) or any form of aftercare. I continued to bleed for another 6 weeks, and I didn’t realise this wasn’t normal at the time. It was a month before I could leave the house properly, due to my physical condition. It’s left some deep mental scars - is it too late to get some support with this through a charity such as yourselves? What kind of support is out there?

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 2 Jul 2018 - 12:43

      It is never too late Rosie and you would be welcome to call us on 0800 0147 800. We are here Monday to Friday 9-5pm. Getting support for a trauma in the past can help you to move on and can also help you to support other women who experience a similar situation as you will in your midwifery training. Hope to hear from you soon. Take care

    • By Rmma (not verified) on 24 Jun 2018 - 07:21

      I’ve reacently just found out I have had a missed miscarriage. I would have been 13 weeks and was going for my first scan but before this I started have a discharge that had blood in I knew something wasn’t right it turns out the baby hadn’t grown past 8 weeks I was devastated I thought I had made it past the danger zone but it turns out I hadn’t . I have to go back in a week to make sure it’s gone . I’m not sure how long to wait till we start trying it’s so disheartening as I’m so scared this will happen again .

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 25 Jun 2018 - 16:28

      Hi, A missed miscarriage is always devastating and I understand your distress. The good news is that you have found our site and you can read so many success stories of other women who have gone through this and gone on to have happy and healthy pregnancies. There is no hard and fast rule about when to try again. Some doctors suggest to wait until after your first period. This can help with dating a pregnancy but is not essential. The best option is to wait until both you and your partner feel physically and mentally ready for another pregnancy. Best wishes

    • By Jennie (not verified) on 22 Jun 2018 - 22:24

      Hi, five weeks ago I had my 2nd miscarriage in a row the previous being in September last year both at 11weeks
      The first was found at the12W scan and I had a medically managed miscarriage in hospital , was sent home after passing my baby then had haemorrhage at home and was taken back in for emergency surgery . We were very sad/devastated but were told there was no reason for us not to try again
      This time around I started to miscarry naturally but again expiranced server bleeding and again ended up having emergency surgery . Have been told again there is no reason for us not to try again As I have had one successful pregnacy !
      At risk of sounding dramatic I'm not sure I can put myself through this again without getting a few answers, and a real fear that next time I will haemorrhage so badly I will leave my two year old without a mother .
      So why do I have to wait for a 3rd before anyone will see us? Is there such a thing as second baby syndrome?

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 25 Jun 2018 - 14:32

      Really sorry to hear this Jennie, At Tommy's we would like to see a change in this so that women who have had two miscarriages are referred for tests. However, at present this is not possible in the NHS who are only able to fund tests for those who have had three miscarriages. The good news is that only 1% of women will experience three miscarriages in a row and 60% of these women will go on to have a successful pregnancy.

    • By Sian (not verified) on 22 May 2018 - 20:54

      My daughter had her 4th miscarriage yesterday and feels really down hearted she reakon she won't be a mother as keeps loosing her wanted babies my daughter was 12 weeks pregnant in her 1st one and 3 weeks in her 2nd one and 7 weeks in her 3rd one this one she was 10 weeks and was so looking forward to meeting him or her but she had to go through the pain again

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 24 May 2018 - 11:02

      Hi Sian, we are so sorry to hear about your daughters experience and cannot even begin to imagine what you are all going through at this time. As she has had more then 3 miscarriages then she can see her GP who can refer her for further investigation if she hasn't don't this already. You can always email the Tommy's midwives on [email protected] or call on 0800 0147 800 Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm and we can have a chat about your daughter being referred to one of our recurrent miscarriage clinics if this is an option that you think she may want to do, we will help you in any way we can. Hope this helps, take care, Tommy's Midwives x

    • By Sian Gellard (not verified) on 21 Aug 2018 - 14:10

      Hi my daughter just recently found out she is pregnant again she went to the gp yesterday who have referred her to tunbridge wells hospital now which will be a long wait to be seen and she will have her first midwife appointment in 2 weeks times she is in early stage of pregnancy the sickness and crampness in the stomach ect but she is petified that she will miscarriage again before she have the appointment to the hospital or the midwife I never experience a miscarriage myself and to see my daughter going through that is heartbreaking I am abit nervous for her to tell you the truth

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 22 Aug 2018 - 11:24

      Hi Sian
      It is normal for women to be seen by their midwife for the first time from 8 weeks onwards for the booking appt.
      I know with her history, she will be very anxious and that is understandable.
      If she is concerned by any abdominal pain - then she can go to her GP who can refer her to the local early pregnancy assessment unit for earlier review before seeing the midwife.
      If she has any further questions, you can get her to email or call our helpline ([email protected] or 0800 0147800)
      All the best
      Tommy's Midwife

    • By Sian (not verified) on 25 Aug 2018 - 18:41

      My daughter went to A&E yesterday night they said there was nothing they can do and that with her history it most properly a miscarriage they sent her home they didn't even sent her to early unit or to see a gyno they booked her in to a early scan on Monday but that's it they did do a urine sample which showed up normal they just basically said there nothing they can do I have gave your number over to her so that she can ring thankyou so much for your understanding

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