Wellbeing after Miscarriage programme - part 3

Welcome to part 3. 

Here you'll learn more about about coping with stress and hormonal changes after miscarriage and work on strengthening your core. You'll also be slowly building intensity in our exercise after miscarriage session.

Stay motivated by sharing your progress on our Facebook group.

You should feel comfortable doing the exercises in part 2 before you start part 3.

Mind - session 3

Stress and your hormones after miscarriage

Stress and the window of tolerance

How your response to stress depends on your past experiences, the support you have from others and the skills you have developed to help you manage challenges.

How the 'window of tolerance' can help you understand your reaction to stress. 

Tips for managing stress.

How grief and loss, traumatic experiences and hormonal changes can make your window of tolerance smaller (and make you feel more stressed more often).

How to recognise and avoid uncomfortable feelings and stay in your window of tolerance.

Drawing the breath - an activity to check in with yourself and calm your breathing.

Have another go at drawing your breath with Denise here.
 

 

If you preferred the safe place activity, you could always give that another go instead. You can find it in session 1.

You might also want to look at some simple breathing exercises for stress on the NHS website.

Core Connection - session 3

Strengthen your core and become more body aware after miscarriage

It's common to have complicated feelings about your body after miscarriage. This can also affect your emotions, perhaps making you feel more anxious, depressed or low in mood.

Movement is one way you can work on this.

In this session Jenni also explains more about abdominal diastasis or diastasis recti (separation of the muscles in your stomach). You can read more about this below too.

Jenni will show you exactly what to do. This is just to give you a general idea. We will also show you an easier and harder version of all the movements. 

Warm up in standing:

  • deep breathing while thinking about your posture and deep core
  • shoulder rolls into side bends into side roll downs
  • foot and ankle movements.

Hands and knees (4 point):

  • swimming - moving legs and arms
  • knees hovers
  • half plank, down onto elbows
  • thigh stretch.

Lying on your back with knees bent:

  • grounding and body scan
  • knee drops sideways with finger tips to sky
  • single leg scissor movements
  • stomach muscle movements up and sideways
  • shoulder bridge.

Lying on your right hand side:

  • knee lifts
  • clam lifts
  • rainbow shapes with top leg
  • thigh stretches.

Sitting into roll down and watching your stomach muscles for doming.

Lying on your left hand side:

  • knee lifts
  • clam lifts
  • rainbow shapes with top leg
  • thigh stretches.

Lying on your back with knees bent:

  • stretching your glutes
  • foot to ceiling (hamstring stretch)

Hip flexor stretch.

Standing:

  • balances
  • squats and jump and land to help strengthen your pelvic floor.
  • deep core breaths and body scan with positive talk towards your body.

     

 

Keep practising the jumping exercise Jenni showed you in this session, ready for some higher impact exercise coming up soon.

Remind yourself of the body scan and core breathing and pelvic floor exercises here. We have more information on pelvic floor symptoms and what to do about them here.

If you feel up to it, you could also try a simple physical activity, such as going for a walk, and notice how it affects your emotions that day.
 

Diastasis recti is when the 2 halves of the stomach ‘6 pack’ muscle (the rectus abdominis) move apart. It can feel like a wide gap in the stomach muscles. It can affect how your core muscles work.

Normal stomach muscles

an abdomen with normal muscles running down the centre

Stomach muscles with diastasis recti

stomach showing stomach muscles pulled apart in diastasis recti

 Images used with permission of the owner, Grainne Donnelly, www.absolute.physio

 

Who can get diastasis recti?

Diastasis recti can affect anyone. 

Some things make you more likely to have it. These include:

  • how good your skin is at stretching
  • being overweight
  • stretching of the tummy muscles during the later part of pregnancy
  • having had lots of full-term pregnancies - the risk can increase with each pregnancy

It’s important for everyone to know about diastasis recti.

Symptoms of diastasis recti

You may have: 

  • bulging or doming in the centre of your tummy when you move in a way that increases the pressure in your abdomen, for example sitting up, coughing, sneezing, lifting something heavy and some core exercises.
  • feeling uncomfortable along the centre of your tummy, especially when you have been more active
  • a feeling of a gap when you feel along the middle of your tummy
  • lower back pain
  • leaking wee or poo
  • symptoms of pelvic organ prolapse.

Getting help for diastasis recti

Your GP can  refer you to a specialist pelvic health physiotherapist.

There are also some things you can do at home.

  • Don’t hold your breath when lifting, rolling over in bed or standing up from sitting. Instead breathe out and lift and squeeze your pelvic floor at the same time. This stops you from creating a build up of pressure in your stomach area, which can make symptoms worse.

     

  • Straining when you go to the toilet also makes diastasis recti worse by creating pressure in your stomach area. Try not to get constipated. Putting your feet on a stool when you go to the toilet makes it easier to pass poo.

     

  • Learn how to control the pressure in your stomach area by switching on your pelvic floor and deep core muscles. You should also strengthen these muscles to support the area. Jenni shows you how to do this in Core connection session 1, and throughout the programme.

     

  • You may notice diastasis symptoms (such as doming) or pelvic floor symptoms (such as bulging, pressure or leaking) during higher intensity core exercises such as sit ups, plank work and double leg lifting/lowering. Start with the core exercises that you can do without symptoms and gradually increase to the higher intensity exercises over time. You may need the advice and guidance of a pelvic health physiotherapist to help you do this
     

 

Move - session 3

Exercise after miscarriage

Strength work (strengthening your muscles) and cardio work (getting out of breath). 

Some slightly higher impact exercises (ones where both your feet leave the ground at once). 

Shakira will show you exactly what to do. This is just to give you a general idea. Nicky and Jenni will show you an easier and harder version of all the movements. 

Warm up:

  • squats
  • reverse lunges
  • bodyweight deadlifts
  • body rolls
  • arm side reaches
  • downward dog heel walks
  • mini squats.

Main workout:

  • squats with knee raise
  • Ys, Ts and Is
  • downward dog to modified push up
  • plank on knees
  • bridge with single leg extension
  • kneel to stand
  • arm circles.
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I have felt that exercise and particularly movement which is out in nature has brought a sense of calm, allowed me to process my feelings and it is fair to say I have never regretted going out for a ride or a walk.

— Mim

Are you ready to move on to part 4?

Please stay on part 3 until you feel confident doing each movement and do not have any pelvic floor symptoms while you are doing them (leaking wee or feeling as if your pelvic floor area is bulging or dragging down). 

This way you can build up slowly and safely without risk of injury.  If you are worried about any pelvic floor symptoms, please talk to your GP.

It’s OK to move on with some sessions and not others. For example, you might want to go ahead with the Mind content, but stay on an earlier Move session for longer. 

We have a progress tracker to help you plan.

If you need more support after this session, you might find it helpful to reach out to others on our Facebook group.

If you can, it can be really helpful to talk to someone you are close to about this course, or even watch it with them.

You can also talk to a Tommy’s midwife for free. You can call them Monday-Friday, 9am-5pm on 0800 0147 800 or you can email them at [email protected]. Our midwives are trained in bereavement support so will be able to talk to you about what you’re going through. If you are Black or Black Mixed Heritage we have a specialist helpline for you, in partnership with 5 X More. Book your call here.

The Miscarriage Association runs support groups in person and on Zoom.

We have more information and support on our website too.

If you are having suicidal thoughts or thoughts about harming yourself or others, call 999 or go to A&E. If you need to talk to someone right now, call  Samaritans on 116 123 or text SHOUT to 85258.

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Review dates
Reviewed: 30 March 2025
Next review: 30 March 2028