Every couple is different, and everyone will have their own way of grieving, and moving forward, after a miscarriage. Some people want to get pregnant again as soon as possible, and others need time to prepare themselves physically and emotionally. Some couples may even decide they don’t want to try again.
Take all the time you need to think about it, and make sure you have all the information you need to make an informed decision.
Talk to your doctor
If you’ve had 1 miscarriage, you probably won’t have a follow-up appointment with your GP or the hospital. But you can make an appointment with your GP if you want to talk about it and ask any questions you may have about trying to get pregnant again.
If you’re not ready to think about pregnancy yet, don’t worry. You can always make an appointment with your GP in the future to talk it over.
It is best to wait until all your miscarriage symptoms, such as pain or bleeding, are gone because there is a risk you may get an infection.
From an emotional point of view, it may take a while for your sex life to get back to normal. Some couples find it helps as a way of showing their love for their partner or comforting each other. Other couples may not feel sexual at all. There are things you can do if you are concerned about your relationship after a miscarriage.
If you normally have regular periods, your next period will usually happen around 4–6 weeks after a miscarriage. However, you will ovulate before then, so you may be fertile in the first month after a miscarriage.
Your doctors may advise you to have at least one period before you start trying for another baby. This is because your first menstrual cycle after a miscarriage is often much longer or shorter than usual. If you get pregnant during that cycle, it may be difficult to work out when you conceived. This is could make it difficult to work out when you’re due and cause you some unnecessary anxiety.
Don’t worry if you get pregnant before having a period. This does not increase the risk to your pregnancy. Unless your doctor advises you to wait, you can try for another baby as soon as you are ready.
Your physical health
A very small number of women may have a condition that makes them more likely to miscarry, such as diabetes or thyroid disorder. If this is the case, making sure your condition is managed well will help reduce the risk. Talk to your GP or specialist before you start trying for another baby.
Find out more about health conditions and planning a pregnancy.
Your mental health
Losing a baby through miscarriage can be heart breaking and you’ll probably feel all kinds of feelings and emotions for a while. Your partner will too.Some couples feel that getting pregnant again will help them move on, whereas others may need more time.
If you’re thinking about having another baby but aren’t sure you’re emotionally ready, you can always ask for help.
Your GP will be able to tell you more about how to access support locally or get a referral. Or you can talk to a Tommy’s midwife for free. You can call them on 0800 0147 800, 9am-5pm, Monday-Friday. Or you can email them at [email protected].
Find out more about planning a pregnancy and managing your mental health.
Planning a pregnancy
There are things you can do before trying for a baby that may improve your fertility, protect your baby’s future health and bring down your risk of problems in pregnancy.