When we spoke to our National Centre for Miscarriage Research about finding someone who could talk about the support we offer to families who are pregnant after loss, they recommended Anita’s family. Before filming, we had a call to talk to her about her experiences and discussed the possibility of travelling to Birmingham to see her. We were unsure if we would be able to make it to film in person, but thankfully after our risk assessments made sure we were Covid-19-compliant, we were delighted to be able to visit Anita and her lovely family and film her story at home.
“I became part of Tommy’s after my 3rd miscarriage at 20 weeks, it changed my life and my outlook completely. It was one of the most life-changing events of my life as I was getting a private gender scan only to find out my little baby boy had passed away without any warning signs.
“I am indebted and grateful to Tommy’s for providing me with the support and investigations needed to reassure me and explore the cause of my miscarriage, a question a bereaved mother wants answered no matter what. I couldn’t have imagined surviving those painful months without knowing I was under the care of the best clinicians.
“Miscarriages are hardly ever given the importance they deserve; women are left to deal with it on their own. People are quick at deciding that’s it common to have miscarriages and women can quickly move on, trying for a baby again.
“Yet nobody knows or can feel what a bereaved parent goes through. Tommy’s ensures the robust support needed to a successful pregnancy and birth of a baby is available to all.
“Without this support, I am not sure how bereaved mothers like myself would be able to face yet another uncertain pregnancy full of tribulations and distress.”